I wasn’t looking for wisdom.
I was looking for memes.
It was a regular day. I was mindlessly scrolling through Reddit, deep in a thread about something totally pointless (probably “What’s the dumbest hill you’re willing to die on?”—solid entertainment, by the way).
But somewhere, buried between snarky comments and questionable takes, I saw a random post that smacked me in the brain like a flying flip-flop from a disappointed aunt.
It simply said:
“You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to.”
And just like that, my entire perspective shifted.
Wait, What?
Let’s be honest: I love being right. I’ve rehearsed arguments in the shower like I’m preparing for a courtroom drama.
If someone’s wrong on the internet—I feel like I’m obligated to correct them. I used to think silence = losing. So I’d jump into debates like a knight in sweatpants.
But that comment made me stop.
Because… it’s true.
You don’t have to attend every argument.
You don’t have to prove yourself to everyone.
You don’t have to turn every disagreement into a wrestling match for your ego.
The Energy Budget
Here’s the thing: energy is not unlimited. And arguments? They’re expensive.
Every time I got sucked into a petty fight (online or in real life), I noticed it drained me. Not just mentally, but emotionally. I’d replay the convo, get annoyed all over again, and imagine comebacks I should’ve said. (You know that “shower argument” we all win two days later.)
But for what?
Half the time, the other person didn’t care. The other half, they weren’t even listening. They were just waiting for their turn to speak—like two radios shouting at each other.
So now, thanks to that random Reddit comment, I’ve started asking myself:
Is this worth the energy?
And most of the time, the answer is a peaceful, glorious, stress-reducing nope.
It’s Not About Losing
Choosing not to argue doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re wise.
It means you value peace over ego.
It means you know when to walk away instead of wasting your day typing a paragraph to someone who still thinks the Earth is flat.
You can let people be wrong.
You can let people misunderstand you.
You can protect your peace like it’s the last slice of pizza—because it kinda is.
Final Thoughts From the Internet’s Therapist (Me)
Sometimes, the biggest life lessons don’t come from books or gurus.
Sometimes, they come from strangers with usernames like “PotatoLord92.”
So here’s to that Reddit comment that lives rent-free in my head.
It reminded me that silence is not weakness. It’s power.
And not every battle is worth the bruises.
Next time you feel the urge to jump into an argument, pause—and remember:
You’ve got better things to do. Like scrolling Reddit. Or, you know, living.
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