A Simple Trick That Made Me Instantly More Confident

Let me start by saying: I am not a naturally confident person.
I overthink everything. I replay awkward conversations from 2009. I’ve “accidentally” waved back at people who weren’t waving at me more times than I care to admit.

So when I say I found a simple trick that made me feel more confident instantly, I mean it.

And no, it wasn’t buying a new outfit, shouting affirmations in the mirror, or doing power poses in the bathroom like I’m about to go on stage at TEDxMyRoom.

It was this:

👉 I started acting like I already was confident.

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Wait, That’s It?

Yep. That’s the trick. I know—it sounds like a motivational quote that belongs on a coffee mug. But hear me out.

One day, I was about to walk into a meeting where I didn’t feel prepared. I was panicking internally, mentally preparing my escape route (probably something involving fake coughing and a fire alarm).

Then I asked myself:
“What would Confident Me do?”

Would they walk in with their shoulders slouched and eyes glued to the floor?
No.
Would they apologize 17 times before speaking?
Absolutely not.
Would they sit in the corner, blending into the wall like a sad plant?
Heck no.

Confident Me would walk in, make eye contact, say what needed to be said, and not over-apologize for existing.

So I pretended to be that version of me.

And weirdly… it worked.

Fake It = Face It

This isn’t about being fake. It’s about practicing confidence until it becomes natural.
It’s like trying on a pair of shoes that feel weird at first, but after a while, they just fit.

When I started showing up like the confident version of myself, I began to believe it.
Not because I had suddenly transformed into Beyoncé, but because I was giving my brain proof:
“Hey look, you didn’t explode. You handled it.”

And with every situation, that proof stacked up.